My Hair does not define me…

*bursts out into song:

I am not my hair;
I am not this skin;
I am not your expectations no no
I am not my hair;
I am not this skin;
I’m a soul that lives within

Okay… now that that’s out the way…

I recently recorded a “How to quickly style your natural hair for work” type of video. Whenever I ‘rock’ my natural hair to work, it’s always tied up. Boring aren’t I? So I figured if I’m always going to be tying it up, why not get cute and creative with it?

How creative am I with my hair

Me… all the time

For some reason, I felt that the video needed to be supported by a blog post. I don’t know, I feel like I always have to explain myself when it comes to posting about hair, because people are generally quick to judge or pass comments. I even have people asking me why I wear weaves when I have beautiful, healthy natural hair. And I’m just like, uhm, because I like playing around with options and love the way I look with it?

Maybe part of this has to do with the fact that back in my previous life as a model (lol), you had to look a “certain way” in order to do well in pageants. Sad, but true. So I think since then I’ve held onto anything that makes me look and feel pretty, which is totally fine and normal.

See the thing is, my hair does not define me. It does not make me who I am in any way, shape or form.

In fact, look at it as a ‘hat’, and tomorrow, I’ll wear another one. I personally love my wigs (and not because I’m a brand ambassador for a hair company 😉 ) but because they allow my hair to grow at its own pace, without all the constant chemicals, heating, pulling and combing. They are also convenient when it comes to getting ready in time and “dressing up” for any occasion. I think if anything, it’s because of wearing wigs as a protective style that my hair is in such a great condition.

If you find that you don’t know how to style your natural hair aswell, you can check out my quick video here, for easy and cute ways to style an up-do for work, in just 1 minute –  watch now!

I love my hair and am proud of it! I just don’t like the fact that my identity is wrapped up in my hair.

So tell me, when I have some of these looks below, who am I trying to be? A red-head, Caribbean black Indian blonde mermaid? Please!


At the end of the day…we’re still all black women. The kinkiness of my hair does not exemplify what I am capable of. I am only interested in the characteristics and traits that make up my personality, thanks!

What does your hair say about you?

p.s. when I talk about ‘natural hair’, I’m referring to the hair that naturally grows on your head. Not the type of hair or coils that you have. I don’t want #TeamNatural to start attacking me, lol! That’s a conversation for another day 🙂